Children are inquisitive beings; they represent the innocence of humanity’s desire to know and acquire knowledge. They easily get hurt as a result and often develop fear or aversion to the cause of their pain. This is a common concern for many parents irrespective of region or nationality. However, what every parent needs to know is that it is just as easy for children to overcome their fears. Especially at preschool age.
The most common kinds of fear are born in dark places, from loud sounds, dizzying heights, and upon separation from parents. Often, the imagination of a child may bring about a sense of fear as well.
Dealing with a child’s fear is a delicate subject: they need both the understanding someone only their age can provide and the tough nudge an adult can give when it counts. Inappropriately dealing with this issue might make it difficult for your child to rely on you. Thus, to help parents overcome this hurdle, here’s a list containing five points to keep in mind when helping your child overcome their fears and apprehensions:
A ‘Different’ Kind of Support System Is Required for Fears: Probably the most important aspect of a child’s development is parental support. However, a support system built around helping a child overcome their fear is slightly different from the norm. While patience and care are universal, as mentioned above, it is not enough. The support given to a child when they battle a fear must include both care and severity. It is similar to the way a parent lets go of their hold on the bicycle to let their child ride without support. Except here, you need to be a little more explicit. For example, if your child fears deep water, like in pools or rivers, you can sit with them near the edge and let your feet dangle in the water. Slowly, you can enter the water body while holding them close. Then, you can decrease contact by increasing distance. Hold their hands at this stage. Once their curiosity kicks in, they might even willingly let go of you. Alternatively, you can help them by providing a swim ring (floating tube) as well. However, please keep in mind that it is ultimately a crutch.
You Must Understand Your Child’s Fears :The fears of a child must not be looked at from the lens of an adult; children deserve the same attention, understanding, and care an adult would otherwise get. Their fears must not be belittled, or looked down upon. This does not mean that a parent needs to behave and speak like a child. Children simply desire validation and genuine attention. In fact, making fun of a child’s fear may permanently scar them. Please pay attention to that.
You Must Let Your Child Confront Their Fear Alone: It sounds tough, I know. But, as stated before, you must let go of your child to allow them to confront their fears. Only then would they become confident and brave. However, the method need not be severe or hard-handed. Like the example with water or cycling, you can subtly let go of your child without them knowing. By the time your child realises it, they would learn how to handle themself on their own.
You Might Need External Support :If your child’s experience with something painful or dangerous was traumatic and caused them great harm, like drowning in a pool, or falling from a big height, and their reaction to it was severe, then it might be best to take the problem even more seriously and seek a counsellor or therapist for them. They may have developed a phobia, which is an extreme aversion to something, often linked to a past traumatic event. There are several ways to identify the existence of a phobia. A phobia of heights may make your child stop playing on the slide, or quit climbing stairs to high places. Thus, a parent must be extra careful in observing their child after such an event to see if they have developed an aversion to it, and to what extent.
Children are not difficult to understand, as long as one is patient and open-minded with them. While the true inner workings of a child’s mind may elude many, and harsh behaviour with them may negatively affect their development, they are ultimately free of the vices and complexities of adulthood. Building a strong foundation for them in their early years of development is extremely important. A parent understands this better than anybody else. So, let us at Bella Mente work together with you to ensure your little pre-schooler grows up well.
We aim to become not just a pre-learning institution but the institution that aims for the holistic development of a child. If a child is given special attention at the initial levels of education that would furthermore encourage the child toward education. A child will then never see education as a problem but their perspective will change as education is the solution to the problem.
During the child’s development age the surrounding of the child sometimes plays a major role therefore here in pre-learning education we not only try to make the child perform but also provides them with a homely caring and loving environment to make the children more comfortable and feel familiar.
The growing concern of parents these days is will their children get the attention that they need? Yes, the answer to that is yes as we try to give equal attention to every child as every child is important through this the child will not only able to be attentive but also the guide would get to know which weaker aspect of the child needs the most attention.
Every child needs a different kind of assistance from our preschool learning we practice and help the children to meet what they require. A child’s fear of anything will make the children weak at everything therefore to deal with child phobias we work on children to make them free and try to build qualities that help them to be strong at everything.